Why Me Syndrome
I always considered myself of fairly normal health. I ate the wrong things at times and drank more than I should. However, being fairly social, enjoyed eating out and drinking with Colin and my friends – that’s natural. Right? I exercised regularly and played golf as often as I could, maybe two or three times a week. I always walked the course with my golfing buddies. I was highly active, motivated and pretty competitive at work in general. How on earth could this have happened to me? But why not?
The natural reaction would be anger, confusion and become upset of why this could possibly happen to you. Nevertheless this thing could happen to anyone living in ignorance, so don’t even start thinking about “Why Me” questions. If this happened to you, you and your loved ones will have to deal with it as best you can. Unfortunately, due to very high blood pressure, I found myself in this horrible situation because I never had it checked. That was something Colin would do on a daily basis. Never me! It has since been a regular routine to check my blood pressure. So be warned! Be bothered to take a few minutes to keep checking. It could save you or remind someone dear to you.
Start of Your Road to Recovery – Don’t be too Proud
Everyone recovers in different ways and at a different speed and level, but full recovery should be the main thing you should concentrate on. You will naturally feel frightened, frustrated and very often even be too proud to ask for assistance. Don’t be afraid or obstinate to ask. You won’t be able to do things for yourself at first, people around you wouldn’t know how to behave, but certainly would like to know how to be of help to you. Let them know and offer. No use in being stubborn, pushing them away and think that you are the only person suffering. It wouldn’t hurt to consider others at your difficult time. Your family, friends and loved ones would also be suffering in a different way. Be “nice”, as Colin would often remind me. You must remember that you have the ability to eventually recover, but how you do, will be entirely up to you. Nobody can do all the exercises, physio and the other things you need to do. It will be something that you must decide for yourself. If you want to fight for or not! Just concentrate on your path to getting better.
One Day at a Time: Some of you will possibly feel dejected, as you contemplate how to overcome the obstacles you will have to face. Remember, one day at a time. Every small thing will be a small victory. Concentrate on ridding yourself of negative thoughts and think of the optimistic side of your situation. I know, it will be tough to imagine anything positive at first, but you need to realize how lucky you have been to survive at all. Can you realise how amazing that has been? Take a deep breath and consider the alternative of not being around anymore! Quite a sobering thought and not an option, in my opinion. I probably sound boring but, you have been given another chance at life, so don’t waste a minute! Whenever someone tries to help or be kind by telling you to “be positive” (as if you never heard that before – hee hee), don’t get angry and frustrated, just think of it as a blood group and smile.
I found that as I progressed in my recovery, my priorities and relationships changed. I got a chance to perceive life from another angle and still had a chance to address some past situations. Although this dreadful thing happened to me, I’ve been very grateful for the ability to wake up every single day since. “dum spiro, spero”, means “while I breathe, I hope”. Since my attack I have made so many precious and new memories. Never give up.
So I hope you benefit from part, if not all, of my journey of recovery. Good luck ….
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